How to Have a ‘Sexual State of the Union’
By Catherine Pearson for The New York Times
In her new book, the sex educator Emily Morse argues that every couple should have a frank conversation — ideally, once a month.
Work, kids, health — countless factors can get in the way of good sex. But Emily Morse, a sex educator, believes one roadblock tends to loom larger than the others.
“Most of the sexual problems in our relationships have nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with communication,” Ms. Morse writes in her new book, “Smart Sex.”
Addressing intimacy isn’t always easy, she acknowledged: “Conversations around sex are not normalized at all.” But Ms. Morse’s raison d’être across her various platforms is to encourage people to talk openly about sex — to identify what they want, and to learn how to say it.
Here are some strategies Ms. Morse suggests.
1. Keep it brief.
2. Expect it to be awkward
3. Start by asking: ‘What would you like to see more of in our sex life?’
4. Pay attention to timing, tone and turf.
Read the full article here to learn more about each suggestion.